Discouraging Discouragers (be gone!)

 What is suppose to seem like a “simple statement” is never actually is. When we think of “misery loves company” we simply think that people who aren’t happy don’t want you to be happy because they aren’t. Well, there’s nothing simple about that statement and if you don’t think that you’ve allowed the person making that statement to rob you then you’re wrong.

We have parents, family and loved ones who tell us “you can’t”. Like “misery loving company” simply because they can’t imagine themselves capable of defeating odds or “doing the impossible” they embark on a campaign that convinces you of the same! You can’t. Their limitation because your limitation. Your limitation becomes another’s limited ability. It’s a vicious cycle that continues from one to another like an infestation (meaning – to spread or swarm in or over in a troublesome manner).

My dad has always told me there is no such word as can’t. I didn’t realize how right he was because I was too young to grasp what he was actually saying. He wasn’t saying Taalima if you apply yourself and don’t succeed then you don’t succeed. He was saying that you are only limited by what you limit yourself to. If you don’t try you won’t succeed (another supposedly simple statement).

The truth is we can “do anything we put our mind to”. The sad truth is that we don’t believe it. We doubt before there is proof but we want proof in order to believe. Think about it. We doubt before there is proof but require proof in order to believe. We are discouraged and in the process of fearing and lacking we are limited.

Fear, (meaning – to be afraid or apprehensive) keeps us in check. It keeps us in a place of constant discouragement. It keeps us relying on it. It feeds on anything that is contrary to it. Fear is an irrational state of thinking. It’s not in accordance with reasoning which gives you the sense that rational is rational. Or the agreement of what’s “normal”. (What do I mean? Moral coding is so different from one individual to another because of our abilities to rationalize what’s WANTED instead of what we KNOW – you might have to read my blog on love to understand the fullness of what I’m really saying.)

Fear keeps us ensnarled in the web it creates. Like those afraid of spiders, bugs and other things that can’t harm us (or don’t even mean to do us harm). People fail to see how they make a difference. How they add to the greatness of our experience. Like spiders who catch bugs that are often considered pesky to us. They’re like natures own “exterminator”. Yet they are feared based on a discomfort. Take comfort in the fact that we all share in this experience, this life, this planet. Fear is a form of lack and there is more then enough space for us all to “survive”. (Remember too that the creepy things, the crawly things came before us and in a sense inherited the places in which we make our domains.)

To go back to an idea, normality we think of as a paradox. It is something I’ve often said and thought to be true. I’m not normal. I don’t want to be normal. Normal is. What it isn’t are the people who try to define themselves in it. People who say they are normal are often hiding behind the word. Too scared to live up to who they are TRULY they put on a façade of what they think wants to be seen. Hmm… they are discouraged to be who they are because? People are discouraging toward our true nature.

What I have learned and what we all must understand is that we are truly only limited by our limitations. It’s a self inflicted wound. It prepares and sets the foundation for fear which untreated affects our lives and the lives of others.

Warnings and restrictions are a way to limit what’s capable. We reserve special names for those of us who are able to remove barriers as Masters (and any other name you would like to associate with that term). We think they are the only ones who can do it because it seems that so few are “able to GET IT”. You’re right. So many people are willing to limit themselves so that they can’t get it. “I can’t do that the way he did it!” Why? Humans are all capable of obtaining the same levels it depends on willingness to apply and the understanding that you CAN!

Despite what you think you know, (which I’ve said before, as long as you’re thinking, you’re questioning; as long as you’re questioning you don’t know) you can as an idea and as the truth is liberating. It releases you from the bondage that fear will place on your life. It releases you from lack. Most of all, it release you from discouraging discouragers.

I believe the song goes something like “can’t no one hold me down, I have to keep on moving”. Keep moving. Keep being unstoppable and there will be nothing in life that gets in your way.

You’re Trying Too Hard

You’re trying too hard. It’s hard to focus when you try to hard. Sometimes just letting go and letting it come to you is the best way for it to happen. If you’ve noticed anything you try to hard to do ends up blowing up in your face. You’ve put so much energy into getting it done that you’ve somehow lost the original meaning of what you’re trying to do. You’re also about to be a hypocrite. Maybe you have the wrong idea of that word. Maybe you’re just someone who changes (a little too often) but changes just the same. Sticking it out, tried and true, stand the test of time; all things people say when they want to give excuses to themselves. If so many others did it before and it still doesn’t work for you (whose to say that it worked for them?) maybe the solution is to change.

Do it because you want to not because you have to. What joy comes from feeling like you’re forced to do something? If you are running away before you even get to it maybe you need to consider that it’s not something you should be doing. Or worse, the idea of succeeding scares you more then you’re willing to admit. When it’s right, it flows. It comes so easily that there is nothing you need to do but let if flow. When it flows you’re soaring… you’re higher then you would be on any real drug. Maybe that’s scary, and if it is maybe you need to fight whatever demons that are making you feel like that essence, that very Being of being is wrong.

I can’t force myself to write anymore then I can force myself to do anything else. The problem is I’m trying to force myself into doing something. I’m thinking why am I not doing this? I should be doing this! But then I have nothing to say. Just like forcing myself to do – I don’t know what I should be doing it just feels like something! I get distracted easily. I mean thinking, listening, learning, loving… all those things I get distracted from I’m suppose to pay attention to.

You would think I was reckless with my life the way this sounds but I’ve never done anything bad. I’ve never really gotten into any real trouble. I guess I decided a long time ago that I’m a punk. But really it’s just that I never lashed out outside of me. I never did what people did – to me but.. I go thru feeling like I’m up I’m down, I’m up I’m down, I’m up I’m down… Do I really think I’m depressed? No. I think depression is real. As someone who may have suffered from it (unless there is some type of imbalance with your hormones or something medical along those lines) it’s a choice. All the times I was “sad” wondering and thinking what am I here for I? I was making that choice. To be there to have those feelings. That’s what I thought I felt like. Like nothing. Indifferent, unashamed just so willing to let go and just be. But I never actually feel that way. When I was sad I was experiencing the sadness around me. It’s like… there are no words.

I’m learning to have my own feelings. I’m learning to try and care when others say they care. I’m trying to open up all of me. I’ve done some of the work already, but I still have a long way to go. Working on yourself is work. Yes the whole point is not to give up. Not to stop caring Not to be DISTRACTED! Sometimes I just want what’s next. It’s not an excuse and it’s not…. See there I go again. Already forgot that I was suppose to be staying the course. Maybe and this is the real answer here… maybe had I done that from the beginning I would be where I wanted to be right now instead of finishing up something I left behind!

Thank you me for this one. Sometimes I know things and then well I just forget. Thank God for remembering (He’s where I’m trying to be. See my light?)